Boost Self-Esteem—A Developmental Story
A positive sense of self is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child. Children with high self-esteem feel loved and competent and develop into happy, productive people. To help build your child's positive self-image as he grows, consider these dos and don'ts. Do give children choices.
Sometimes it's easy to notice when kids seem to feel good about themselves — and when they don't. We often describe this idea of feeling good about ourselves as "self-esteem."
Kids who have healthy self-esteem tend to:
- feel valued and accepted
- feel confident that they can do what's expected
- feel proud of a job well done
- think good things about themselves
- feel prepared for everyday challenges
Kids with low self-esteem often:
- feel self-critical and are hard on themselves
- feel insecure, or not as good as other kids
- focus on the times they fail rather than the times they succeed
- lack confidence
- doubt their ability to do well at things
Why Self-Esteem Matters
When children feel good about themselves, it sets them up for success — in everything from school to friendships. Positive feelings like self-acceptance or self-confidence help kids try new challenges, cope with mistakes, and try again. Taking pride in their abilities and accomplishments helps kids do their best.
By contrast, kids with low self-esteem might feel unsure of themselves. If they think others won't accept them, they may not participate as often. They may allow themselves to be treated poorly and have a hard time standing up for themselves. Kids who don't expect to do well may avoid challenges, give up easily, or be unable to bounce back from mistakes.
Having low self-esteem can block success. It can leave kids distracted by the stress of how to deal with everyday challenges.
It is a good idea to have your child listen to this story 7 times in row every night at the same time. Another anchor you can crete to cement in the story is to ask your child to draw a picture of Supa Bunnee and the words “Love Myself”and place the picture by their bed. The story needs to live in the child’s mind in order to build awareness around this important and necessary step in childhood development.
Your guide on this journey
Is Rochelle L. Cook MA., ChT., the author of the “The Soul’s Coach – 7 Paths to healing Your Relationship”. She is also known as the “The Soul’s Coach.” Ms. Cook’s book, workbook and journal are available on Amazon.
If you have found this mediation useful consider reading the book, and doing the work outlined in the workbook. It will be tremendously supportive as Ms. Cook herself suffered for years with depression. She healed and so can you. If you are serious about transforming who you are in the world, do consider this work, as it has shown to be both inspirational and life changing for many people.
For additional support it may be good to follow up with individual child hypnotherapy sessions with Ms Cook.